How it all began…

Creating a family had always been our highest priority, and had always come easy to us until we tried to have our fifth child.  We knew that we were not done having children, but after years of sudden infertility and several miscarriages, including burying a tiny, perfectly formed little baby boy in the early spring of 2008, we discovered somewhere down the line that Kristi had advanced endometriosis, and would not likely conceive or carry another child again.  Between 2007-2008, we could feel our hearts being drawn to the idea of adoption like never before, and by May of 2009, we had the great fortune of adopting our little boy, James.  This was an experience that moved our entire family.  We were so very blessed, and our life was made so much richer through the miracle of adoption!  Still, in the months and years that followed, we could not ignore the seemingly ever-present feeling that one more child was waiting for us.  We felt more and more impressed that one last little girl would round out our family circle and provide James with a close, similar sibling.  So we moved forward with great faith, and put everything on the line to follow this persistent feeling—a dream that had been revealed literally to the mind and heart of Kristi, early in 2007.  Since that eventful day, we have, as a family, come to know that this dream was a righteous desire blessed to fruition by God, and that Leah would be that child—and yet, little did we know the challenges and trials that awaited us in finding and fighting for this little girl.

Leah’s birth mother, Tira, was married and living in Texas in 2010.  She was trying to hold her marriage together, but in her seventh month of pregnancy, her husband left her without any money, a car, or details of his whereabouts.  Needing to act quickly for the best interest of her unborn child, and with incredible faith, fortitude, and courage, she put her child up for adoption.  She had been studying the adoptive parents’ profiles at the adoption agency, and, as a devout Christian, had been praying over them for weeks—but nothing felt right.  Amazingly, within minutes of our completed home study arriving at the agency, which finalized our application, Tira was hand-delivered our profile. She said she knew immediately that we were the family for her child. She called us right then, and told us through grateful and abundant tears that she felt completely drawn to our family, and confided that she felt she had almost seen in a momentary vision, as it were, her baby seated perfectly in the center of one of our family pictures.  Bottom line: she felt with all her heart that her baby girl should be part of our family.  Within a matter of days, Tira delivered Leah on March 1, 2011 at the Mountain View Hospital in Payson, Utah, and per her request, we were again blessed, beyond words, to receive Leah into our arms moments after her birth. 


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The father intervenes…

Several months later, we were able to track down the birth father to serve him with our adoption petition.  To our great shock and dismay, he objected to our petition and intervened to stop the adoption.  Over the last 19 months, despite the law requiring that a father show interest in his child and at least attempt regular communication to establish a bond, the father has never shown any interest in Leah other than to hire an attorney.  He has never sent her clothes or toys, or even a gift on Christmas or her birthday.  He’s never inquired into her health and well-being, or other details like when she started crawling, walking, talking, or cutting her first tooth. In short, he hasn’t shown any of the natural affection or interest of a parent.   But because the child was conceived in wedlock, he can object to the adoption, forcing us to trial to terminate his parental rights.  On top of two already expensive adoptions (each costing around $25,000)—and though a difficult financial burden, we were prepared to face the sacrifice of those obligations—we are forced now to incur approximately another $30,000 in attorney fees for a two-day trial at the end of this month (October 24-25, 2012) at the
Fourth District Court in Provo, UT.
[Update: Since the ruling and our decision to appeal, we are now anticipating at least $50,000 in total court costs.]

We never could have imagined we would be in the kind of dire situation we find ourselves in at this time.  It is with strained hearts and deep humility that we send this letter to our dear friends, family members, and associates.  It is almost impossible to have to say the words, but we are in need of help and are seeking to raise $30,000 [now updated to $50,000] to cover the legal costs to fight for our daughter.  We have exhausted every other resource to help aid us in this financial trauma, and sadly, are still not anywhere near what we will need to climb out of this hole.  And so we are asking… If you find that you are in a position to offer any amount toward helping us cover these expenses, we cannot convey to you the gratitude, appreciation, and tender mercy we will hold for your offering.  Truly, any amount will help.  


Thank you, and may God bless you!

Sincerely,

Jared & Kristi Frei and family

 

Leah

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“Leah Frei Adoption Fund” America First Credit Union P.O. Box 9199
Ogden, UT 84409
Please indicate Acct. #9055575 in the memo line.

Thank you!

For questions or comments, please email gmail@freiadoption.com

Donations are not tax deductible

For questions or comments, please email gmail@freiadoption.com

Donations are not tax deductible

$50,000

$22,387

Thank You!

$50,000

$22,387

Thank You!